Thoughts for Living When Life “SUCKS”

When you say, “I want to feel better” you make a commitment to embark on a journey to be in a relationship with your body, no matter what age and/or state of health and well being you find yourself in. Creating the right environment to foster “I feel better” sensations starts with creating the right thoughts and feelings about your body and life. Loving what “sucks”.

You are not the disease you have been labeled as having.

When it comes to self-healing the problem to solve is, “How to live and dance ‘with’ your disease?”

Living with any short or long-term physical challenge is an art and a talent anyone can develop. You don’t have to be a genius. All you need is to find what works for you and your body, even when life “sucks”.

“I don’t know” is one of the most powerful things you can say to yourself. When you don’t know you are open, empty, and the world of fascination is in front, like a vast horizon waiting for you to receive the gifts of finding answers.

Exploration is key to cooperative leadership with what “sucks”. Developing the skills of cooperative leadership begins by taking actions to cooperate with your body and life. This means no matter what, you commit to loving your body and life, and to making choices and decisions that result in peaceful resolution and positive results that allow for a bit of “suck”.

Self-Healing Thoughts

  • Be a beginner every day and every time you exercise and move
  • Let go of the right way and make mistakes
  • Explore and discover what feels good for you every moment
  • Know you are not your disease
  • Dance with the personality of your disease
  • Talk to your body and to your illness and listen
  • Give love to your body that is doing its best
  • Give yourself and those who care for you compassion
  • Be in partnership “with” your body
  • Live a bit messy and color outside the lines
  • Be okay sticking and standing out
  • Follow what works
  • Become excited by the unfamiliar
  • Share with others what works for you and your body
  • Take it one minute, one hour, one day at a time
  • Invest in crying once in a while
  • Allow yourself the freedom to feel the grief around what was
  • Become curious about what you can do
  • Do things you love
  • Give your mind and emotions five minutes a day to go crazy
  • Let your emotions play with anger, then smile for one-minute
  • Allow yourself the time and space to feel disappointment
  • Give fear, some time and attention
  • Replenish your body and soul with rest, water and laughter
  • Surround yourself with beauty
  • Touch and sense tender
  • Feed yourself with color and texture
  • Let sounds entertain you
  • Cherish the moment
  • Speak and think for yourself
  • Give yourself credit for being strong and showing up against all odds
  • Stop asking “why?”
  • Do what makes you feel empowered
  • Remember the past, it is a part of you
  • Don’t be afraid to fall down, drool, or wet your pants
  • Be willing to wear a name tag
  • Ask, “Can you help me please?”
  • Let people know what you need
  • Share secret thoughts
  • Don't’ stop socializing or going out
  • Be a good partner to your body
  • Care for your caregivers
  • Never stop seeking what excites you
  • Don’t get caught up in identity
  • Outnumber thoughts of fear with, “This is what I can do”
  • Make life work for you
  • Pay each day forward
  • Help someone else
  • Don’t quit
  • Maximize every experience

Remember that self-healing is the result of doing anything to make you feel a bit better. It comes from developing a sensory relationship “with” your body. While there are many things you can do to make life safe, when it comes to self-healing and moving to feel better, no matter what your state of health and wellbeing, learning to adapt, engage and sustain is the best method.

  1. Adapt, refers to developing the skill to personalize what you do by placing your attention on the sensation of ease, comfort, and pleasure.
  2. Engage, refers to developing the skills of communication and relationship using a body-centered, sensory self-referral method to connect, acknowledge, and gain self-knowledge to make right choices and decisions.
  3. Sustain, refers to developing an artful approach to facilitate self-healing and feel better sensations.

Do what you can do today. It will be perfect now.

The best support comes from recognizing the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with your body. Beyond your body, get support from everything: including people; a chair; the railing and floor; walker or scooter. Your body, mind, emotions, and spirit are support.

You never know the end of the story, and life is never finished until it is finished.

Feeling better is something you must continually define for yourself.

Go to sleep so you can come back tomorrow.

You’ll know when you’re done.


Debbie Rosas